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An Analysis of Change: Learning to Let Go to Move Forward (Just Like You Do on Monkey Bars)

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“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?” ~Leo Buscaglia

In my personal experiences with trying to change things about myself and my life that were no longer useful I came to realize that I was hindering my own growth and positive change by refusing to let go. It’s a weird paradox, you know, this business of letting go to move forward. I’ve always had this idea that I was obligated to remember things of my past, whatever was still accessible to my conscious mind, whatever was embedded deeply in my emotional memory because these things were there and wouldn’t go away, so they were supposed to be there, right? Even though many of these experiences, feelings, things of my past were uncomfortable to recall, scary, limiting, outdated, outgrown, painful, subjugating, I still believed that they were supposed to be there, supposed to be recalled, supposed to be relived, supposed to be held on to. After all, they made me who I am, right? I thought, These memories or ill-feelings will always be with me, I need these things to move forward because they are me and I am them, right? Absolutely WRONG.

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Can’t See the Forest for the Trees: How to Take a Mental Break from Self-Improvement Overload!

Too much of anything is just not a good thing.

The past few weeks have been overwhelmingly amazing for me in the area of personal development. I have learned a lot about the brain, including the fact that we have “3 brains” with a myriad of different functions. I learned about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and how this can be self-induced. I’ve revisited a couple of the personal development “greats” such as M. Scott Peck and Stephen Covey, along with countless other “tasks” that I’ve imparted upon myself along my self-improvement journey. In all of my “getting,” though (getting all kinds of information), I’ve forgotten to just relax, to step away from the table, so to speak, to let the food digest before going in for more. As a result, I nearly lost my mind this week, and had to think of a remedy quickly in order for me to keep my head about things.

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Self-Directed Neuroplasticity: My New Favorite Thing

A Balanced Mind is a Terrible Thing to Surrender

So, along my personal development journey I’ve recently been led to this discussion about the brain and how there is new evidence (at least 5 yrs. old) that suggests that the brain doesn’t stop expanding and changing after childhood, but that it’s ever-expanding. The implication is that you can teach an old dog new tricks if the old dog is a willing participant (woof! woof!). Therefore, the idea that behavior and ways of being in adulthood are fixed is a bunch of bologna. So much for the “that’s just how I am” argument…
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Shifting from Survival to Abundance

For Emergencies ONLY

In the past few weeks there’s been a topic that’s been gnawing at me, ready to be explored, discussed, and, “attended to” in my own personal life. This topic is living in survival mode. For the past several weeks I’ve had discussions on the topic, I’ve read articles, and have even looked to psychological concepts to help me understand how one comes to live in survival mode, particularly in the land of “milk and honey” where, compared to other parts of the world, there is plenty.  Continue reading

How to recover from being “undercover” so long that you start to believe your cover.

Hello world! That’s a helluva title, isn’t it? LOL Reminds me of the film Unknown starring Liam Neeson. The film doesn’t really have that much to do with why I chose this title for this blog post or anything, though. I just realized there was a correlation between like this title, and the movie. I just was thinking about that as I was writing…and then decided to write what I was thinking, so…um…yeah…OK… *insert awkward throat-clearing sound here*

Moving on….

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