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“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?” ~Leo Buscaglia
In my personal experiences with trying to change things about myself and my life that were no longer useful I came to realize that I was hindering my own growth and positive change by refusing to let go. It’s a weird paradox, you know, this business of letting go to move forward. I’ve always had this idea that I was obligated to remember things of my past, whatever was still accessible to my conscious mind, whatever was embedded deeply in my emotional memory because these things were there and wouldn’t go away, so they were supposed to be there, right? Even though many of these experiences, feelings, things of my past were uncomfortable to recall, scary, limiting, outdated, outgrown, painful, subjugating, I still believed that they were supposed to be there, supposed to be recalled, supposed to be relived, supposed to be held on to. After all, they made me who I am, right? I thought, These memories or ill-feelings will always be with me, I need these things to move forward because they are me and I am them, right? Absolutely WRONG.
Posted in Goals and Ambition, Mental Health Facts, Personal Development
Tagged Albert Ellis, Brain, Experience, forgiveness, goals and ambition, growth, healthy, letting go of the past, mental health, moving on, personal development, planning, Reinforcement, Self-esteem, step-by-step, Thought, Wayne Dyer
A Balanced Mind is a Terrible Thing to Surrender
So, along my personal development journey I’ve recently been led to this discussion about the brain and how there is new evidence (at least 5 yrs. old) that suggests that the brain doesn’t stop expanding and changing after childhood, but that it’s ever-expanding. The implication is that you can teach an old dog new tricks if the old dog is a willing participant (woof! woof!). Therefore, the idea that behavior and ways of being in adulthood are fixed is a bunch of bologna. So much for the “that’s just how I am” argument…
Posted in Goals and Ambition, Mental Health Facts, Personal Development, Uncategorized
Tagged abundance mindset, behavior change, Brain, getting better, goals, Health, Meditation, mental health, mind improvement, Neuroplasticity, new neural pathways, personal development, self-directed neuroplasticity, self-improvement
For Emergencies ONLY
In the past few weeks there’s been a topic that’s been gnawing at me, ready to be explored, discussed, and, “attended to” in my own personal life. This topic is living in survival mode. For the past several weeks I’ve had discussions on the topic, I’ve read articles, and have even looked to psychological concepts to help me understand how one comes to live in survival mode, particularly in the land of “milk and honey” where, compared to other parts of the world, there is plenty. Continue reading
Posted in Goals and Ambition, Mental Health Facts
Tagged abundance mindset, beliefs, Hierarchy of Needs, human potential, mental health, perception, personal development, scarcity mentality, self-actualization, self-care, self-growth, solution-focused, transformation
So, I was perusing the web trying to make sense of some of my personal issues because after all, if the world wide web can’t help me patch my life together to become some recognizable, attractive whole then what’s the use?
I found this website that discussed abandonment issues, and it discussed how these issues show up differently for different people in their lives. The site then asked “How do abandonment issues show up in your life?” And then, this blog post was born.
Posted in Child and Adolescent Development, Goals and Ambition
Tagged abandonment, career, childhood, children, commitment, God, guilt, healing, honesty, illusions, parents, Philosophy, Reality, Romance, self-help, shame, success, treatment, truth
I am writing this blog entry nearly 6 months after I declared that I would add more blog entries to this site, get more consistent, stay focused on this project, and blah, blah, blah. Well, “being as though” (a term my mother said I used quite a bit as a teenager for whatever random reason) THAT hasn’t happened, and, in fact, the opposite has happened since it has been 6 months since my last entry, I decided that I would allow myself to be more accepting of my particular growth process.
Posted in Goals and Ambition
Tagged acceptance, adventures, Alternative, Avatar, happiness, honesty, joy, Neytiri, Self-discovery, self-growth, self-love, service to others, transformation
Hello world! That’s a helluva title, isn’t it? LOL Reminds me of the film Unknown starring Liam Neeson. The film doesn’t really have that much to do with why I chose this title for this blog post or anything, though. I just realized there was a correlation between like this title, and the movie. I just was thinking about that as I was writing…and then decided to write what I was thinking, so…um…yeah…OK… *insert awkward throat-clearing sound here*